Sunday, July 05, 2009

I would 100% say no

if a guy tried to propose to me like this.

FYI, in case anyone out there was thinking about it.

43 comments:

Anya Delvay said...

lol! Like this woman did?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UtPkxzHKLpk

Brian F. said...

C'mon.

Where's your sense of romance?

And insanity.

sylvia said...

Haha, I agree. She looks like she's considering it, at one point.

Anonymous said...

Dear Ms. Rat:

I'm writing to inquire about possible matrimony.

'TIL DEATH DO US PART is a romantic suspense novel with a comedic edge and moments of shameless erotica. It is the story of two soulmates, who meet on the opposite sides of the desk in the high-stakes world of extreme publishing--and fall in love.

I envision 'TIL DEATH DO US PART as the first of a series with a story arc spanning decades that can be summed up in three words 'happily ever after.'

This first installment ends with the question: Will you marry me?

Sincerely,
Mr. Toad

Indigo said...

It does have that creepy element to it. I do see romance in that. (Hugs)Indigo

Indigo said...

Ugh. Meant to say I DON'T see any romance in that. Totally busted that last comment. Indigo

Miriam S.Forster said...

Okay, that was kind of sweet until the strange woman in the Mickey Mouse ears burst into song.

Is anyone else scared to go to Disneyland now?

scott neumyer said...

Awwww I thought it was cute! :)

Jenny said...

I always think it's so evil to propose showily in a public place - it's sneaky, makes it really hard to say no. Though I would definitely be saying no if someone did this to me.

Emily Cross said...

Omg. i would not say no. . .

i would just KILL HIM!!!

I could barely watch this i was crinching so much - let alone going through it!

and the singing . . .

*looks scared*


would have been very very funny if she did say no mwahahahaha

JES said...

Cripe. Even I feel emotionally blackmailed just watching that.

Seems like an idea the guy probably didn't discuss with anybody beforehand (except the entire Disney workforce, apparently).

Charles Gramlich said...

It seems to me that these public proposals are a technique of force, an attempt to make sure the woman doesn't feel capable of refusing because of the pressure of the crowd. I'd never do that to anyone.

Casey McCormick said...

Yeah...

I would have ran screaming.

My cousin's husband proposed to her in a talking Pooh Bear costume in a crowded restaurant.

Sarah Laurenson said...

I'm with Emily. He would be so dead.

He did put a lot of work into it. But was that manipulative? Insecurity? Or just plain goofy?

Joe Iriarte said...

I don't think it's a given that this is some sort of emotional blackmail or browbeating. I didn't do anything like this to my wife--for one thing, those Disney proposals cost many thousands of dollars--but if I had, she would have totally eaten it up.

It's not blackmail if you pretty much already know the answer, and if you're proposing to somebody who will enjoy the specific elements of your proposal--in this case, Disney and musicals--and if you're proposing to somebody who enjoys being in the spotlight. My wife and I had talked informally about a future together long before I proposed, we're both amateur singers with a ton of community theatre credits between us, and we were actually married at Disney World. So if I'd done something like this, I know she would have loved it.

The First Carol said...

When guys do extravagant public displays you have to wonder if they are doing it for the girl, or to get attention for themselves. I suspect the latter. I knew a guy like that. (Accent on past tense).

Lisa said...

If he's not gay, I will eat my Micky Mouse ears. Unless my reliable old Gaydar (very finely tuned in the military, I might add) has broken down, there's no way that guy is straight.

angelle said...

uh. that's horrific. i would def say no. is she sure he's batting for her team??

Editorial Anonymous said...

Miriam- I was scared to go to Disneyland before seeing this.

I'll second the creepy/emotional blackmail/peer pressure thing.

I think a lot of guys feel pressure to make their proposal "special" and "memorable". And any woman who's helped put that pressure on the guy only gets what she deserves if he makes a spectacle of their engagement.

But I think what most women think is really special is sincerity and intimacy.

Editorial Anonymous said...

P.S. Moonrat-- Have you noticed people online thinking we're the same person? I've run into a couple instances just this weekend.

Melanie Avila said...

I think that would frighten me. I don't like being at the center of attention. My husband proposed while I was peeing, as it should be.

Portia Saunders said...

I don't even know how any of you watched it all. However, if they've been together for a year, and met at Disneyland, they probably deserve each other.

moonrat said...

Lisa--that's pretty much what I was thinking. But my gaydar's been WAY off lately. Got me in trouble at a party last weekend--I had NO idea I was flirting. I thought I was just chatting with a nice gay man. My friend had to rescue me and the Rally Monkey laughed his head off (ever a true gentleman). Sigh.

moonrat said...

Ed Anon--for real?! Do they? That's pretty funny. We should work to perpetuate it :)

moonrat said...

Melanie--PEEING?!?!?!?!

I'm afraid you're GOING to have to elaborate. ASAP.

Whirlochre said...

If it helps, I always carry round a club and a sack just in case I bump into guys like these.

What a cheapskate — least he could have done was dress up as Pluto or something.

Kristan said...

I'm with Miriam and anyone else who said it: cute until people started singing. then just weird...

Amy L. Sonnichsen said...

Was that for real? I bet it was a Disney show and not the real thing. I bet, I bet.

And if this was the engagement, what's he gonna plan for the wedding? I wouldn't marry him either, Moonrat. Life would be too bizarre.

Amy L. Sonnichsen said...

I feel I should clarify (after rereading my post). I know that this was obviously staged even if it was a real engagement. But you know how at Disneyland the clean-up crew turn into drummers and the trash cans talk? I bet these two lovebirds were Disneyland cast members and this was just a show to *delight* the audience and be a promo for Disneyland engagements. That's what I think.

Joe Iriarte said...

I bet it was real . . . and staged with the help of Disney Fairy Tale Weddings, or whatever they're calling it these days. I practically live inside Disney World, and have known people whose job it was to orchestrate things like this. It's really not that unbelievable that there might be a couple that into Disney, where the guy can sing and dance a bit, and still be straight.

Honestly, I can probably think of at least three couples I know, from my theatre days, that fit that bill.

Kim Kasch said...

Guess I'm a bit bizarre - I would have loved it - 'course I've been married over 26 years so it seems very romantic to me but after 26 years of marriage almost anything seems romantic.

;-)

Ebony McKenna. said...

I couldn't watch it. It was just too painfully awful.

Sophie Playle said...

I was so hoping she would say 'no'! That was horrific!

Ello said...

I vomited in my mouth.

Melanie Avila said...

LOL. Moonrat, our engagement came out of necessity (we found out we'd have to move to Mexico and wanted to get married first) so we bought the ring without an official proposal.

We were already living together so on the way home I gave him the ring, told him I still wanted him to propose, and that he could do it whenever he wanted. Then I went to the bathroom (as I often do after driving all evening) and he followed me in.

When he asked me, I said "you realize this is what I'm going to tell people now, right?" He didn't believe me, silly man.

Sarah Laurenson said...

That's hilarious, Melanie.

My wife and I write notes to each other in the bathroom mirror. You can write/read them when the mirror fogs. So I proposed to her in the mirror and she answered me the same way. Meant taking showers in order to do it. Also meant I wrote it one day and she read it and wrote her reply the next.

That mirror is in the back of the closet now, waiting for us to figure out how to preserve it (if we can).

Joe Iriarte said...

That's really cool, Sarah. :)

Laurel said...

Sarah, that IS really cool. Like romantic secret messages!

Ebony, I'm with you. When the megaphone came out I had to turn it off. Reading the comments here tells me I made the right decision.

NO. Absolutely not. Uh-uh. No way. Nein.

I would like to refer any and all boyfriends to a theme that seems to come up with frequency on agency blogs: Originality can be overrated.

That axiom applies extremely well here.

Melanie Avila said...

Sarah, I think I heard you tell that story on Erica or Stephen's blog, but it's still lovely to hear. Can you spray it with acrylic or something like that? (once it's refogged, of course)

moonrat said...

i love these stories!!! thanks, guys :)

Janet Reid said...

I vote with the "they met cause they both worked at Disneyland" contingent.

I think it was rather sweet.

I hate sweet.

Glen Akin said...

Lol you'd say no? After all that performance? Liar. No woman would say no. I mean, I'd never do that to a girl to be honest, but you want to end up on Youtube as the chick who said no to the guy would proposed to you in Disney Land after dancing and singing? Hahahaha! The shame alone will force that yes out of your mouth!

danceluvr said...

"I think it was rather sweet.

I hate sweet."

Is that like Mr. Grant telling Mary she has spunk and he hates spunk?


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