Thursday, March 19, 2009

why I <3 NY

Today, I made a subway friend. She turned out to be a chef (although, unfortunately, recently laid off) from the Galapagos Islands. We talked about Dunkin Donuts--her favorite is the Boston Cream, although I went on and on about the new waffle sandwich--and she asked me how I decide how much of an author's book I cut while editing (answer: it varies).

We didn't exchange names, but if I ever see her again I'll ask.

34 comments:

David said...

Er, you'll ask what?

writtenwyrdd said...

Is that <3 thing supposed to be a heart? I've been seeing it lately and didn't know for sure.

I recall bus stop friendships like that from San Francisco. People that you saw over the years nearly every morning and chatted while waiting. I knew this one gal three years, we talked a lot and liked each other, but never even exchanged names--even though I got to hear all about her skiing accident when her leg was in a cast, or her pregnancy woes while she burgeoned under bigger and bigger blouses, and the latest family news after the baby was born. I even heard all about her divorce! But we never exchanged names.

Isn't that weird?

Jolie said...

Alternate subject line for this post: "Why Jolie is totally moving to New York."

I really am! (Well, probably. Nothing final yet.) Maybe we'll meet on the subway and I won't even know it's you.

JES said...

I've spent a lot of time in NYC (NJ native) but I've never understood the impulse to strike up conversations with strangers in the subway, slow elevators, etc., let alone how to satisfy the impulse once it comes over you. You didn't detail how this one got started; did she see you eating a waffle sandwich (which I now totally want to try), or did you see her with a Boston Cream? Or did you just start... talking?

(Ha ha, the word verif thing is dishi.)

Stephen Duncan said...

I went to the Galapagos last year (Santa Cruz)! There's some crazy-good food there. Bought the most comfortable t-shirt I've ever worn from a tortois conservatory - Lonesome George. Google it.

moonrat said...

JES--I, um, just started talking to her. I do that all the time.

Whirlochre said...

£><3

Always reminds me of the look in Jeff Goldblum's eyes just before his jaw drops off.

Cathy in AK said...

My mom talks about her "train buddies" all the time, but she rides in from LI so there's more time to strike up a conversation. On a side note, she recently had to go to a DMV office in Manhattan and was impressed with the niceness of the folks working there. Yeah, I know!

Melanie Avila said...

I once got a job interview with a man who fell on me when the train lurched. There are some good people there. :)

MaLanie said...

I cannot imagine not having a conversation with someone that was sitting next to me for a long ride. Especially if I seen the everyday. I think paths cross for a reason. I have had some pretty cool talks with strangers. But, if the person is a little odd I clam up and move away!

Maybe it's a cutlural thing? Here in Oklahoma we don't really get the opportunity to ride on public transportation. Most of everyone has cars here. The only time I am sitting with people I don't know is in the doctors office or something like that.

When my husband went to NYC a few years ago he thought it was the oddest thing how people would sit together for a long time and not even acknowledge one another.

I can't wait to go NYC, everyone will have to be my friend even if they don't want to! ;-)

Elle said...

I think not asking for a name is one of the bus friendship rules (or in this case, subway friendship rules) http://www.bustales.com/route/133/a-rich-non-relationship/
but it seems like you've already broken most of them, so maybe NY is different than Minnesota (not having lived in either, I cannot say)

Jolie said...

P.S. I want to do THIS. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE MOONIE.

Kelley said...

*noddin* Not possible to not <3 anyone who appreciates the love that is DD's Boston creme.

JES said...

Jolie: thank you SO much for providing that link to the account of Stuart's trip. One of the most entertaining sets of consecutive paragraphs I've read in weeks. (Even if one of the commenters did protest the "facts," unconvincingly I might add.)

Merry Monteleone said...

Okay, maybe this is a city thing... I talk to strangers all the time. I haven't taken the el or buses regularly in almost forever, but it's pretty much prerequisite to talk to people on them... unless they're drunk or crazy... which can sometimes be amusing too.

Moonie... how do I get you to take me on a tour like the one you gave conduit? :-)

moonrat said...

Elle--the bus friends thing is fantastic! Hahaha. Ummm, I'm officially one of the creepsters.

moonrat said...

uh, Jolie, i will happily do "that" with anyone, hahahahahaha.

i was thinking--maybe we should have some kind of huge karaoke party! plan a little bit ahead, so everyone can come to new york. i'll rent a huge hall and a karaoke machine, and disguise myself as a wannabe writer (i'll be a really annoying one!), and we'll all sing the night away.

so, who would come?

Jolie said...

I will be in NYC April 3-5. And I love karaoke, especially combined with alcohol. Let's do this thing. *cracks knuckles*

Merry Monteleone said...

Oh too funny - Ello and Travis and I were just tweeting about finding a conference we could all go to a few weeks ago, and I mentioned the same thing to Stephen Parrish via email...

We should all do a Moonrat's Magical Mischeif conference, complete with drunken karaoke. :-)

Merry Monteleone said...

Moonrat's Magical Mischeif

Umn... ya know... except spelled correctly. :-)

moonrat said...

Merry--you know spelling has never been one of my strong points :)

Hmm, I bet we could make a weekend out of it. We could justify nights of karaoke bliss with, umm, some pitch sessions or something. I wonder how many favors I could call in? Maybe we could get some agents to come, too. Especially if there were an open bar.

moonrat said...

of course, if it's a "conference" of four people each of us would get the mic for longer.

Jolie said...

Mm, because we all know how much those agents love an open bar! I mean, who could blame them?

Y'all feel free to email me if you're serious about formulating a Plan. As a lone traveling female who doesn't know the city, I will have nothing else to do but sit safely in my hotel room two nights in a row. (If I do anything but that, my mother absolutely cannot know about it!)

joliehale [at] gmail [dot] com

Merry Monteleone said...

Moonie,

That sounds awesome! I couldn't make it this april, it's just not enough notice for me... but if we had enough time for everyone to make arrangements (and in this economy, save up for the expenses) it sounds like a wonderful trip...

Umn, it might be kind of hard for you to stay anonymous though..... you could swear us all to secrecy and wear disguises all weekend :-)

JKB said...

How.

Cool.

But you know, really? The glazed donuts are still the be-all and end-all...seeing as most of the donuts over here (Germany) are just made of fail, it makes those glazed ones all the more sweeter.

MaLanie said...

JKB, I MISS GERMANY! I lived in Bamburg for three years. Go Army! I can't wait to take my hubby someday when our little ones are bigger.

Now, that was a place that's hard to talk with strangers!

deal or no deal? said...

The first time I ever saw a copy of Splendid Suns was on a bus in Denver. Someone was reading it.

http://bookdealornodeal.blogspot.com/

Janet Reid said...

Open Bar????

Emily Cross said...

Hey Moonrat, I love meeting random strangers that you hit it off with, hope you meet her again :)

thought you might be interested in this article about some libraries in UK looking to e-books

http://www.thebookseller.com/news/80318-more-libraries-look-to-ebooks.html

writtenwyrdd said...

A karaoke party with an open bar and Moonrat? I feel both old and jealous. If I'm ever in NYC (I have a friend in Brooklyn and have never gotten down to visit. Yet.) I hope to 'stalk' you, Moonie...or just randomly talk to you on the subway! :)

Anonymous said...

Down here in Alabama we strike up conversations just about anywhere. Grocery line have more than two people in it? They're gonna talk. We wave at everybody, too.

I visited NY City when I was a teen and our guide had to warn me not to wave at everybody because y'all don't do that up there.

I'm glad to know there's at least one sociable soul up there.

WandaV

Jolie said...

I'm a Southerner (SC). My best friend is a Yank (Michigan). She recently explained to me (in our ongoing conversations on north-south differences, which always end with her telling me to write her a manual on being southern) that in the north, making eye contact with someone counts as a greeting. Down here, making eye contact without a verbal greeting is considered a snub. If there's a book where you can learn this stuff, I don't know about it.

Maybe I'll write that manual ...

Deb S said...

A pitch contest American Idol style.
The judges: Moonrat, Bransford, Nelson, Reid

Chumplet - Sandra Cormier said...

You guys are killing me. I just picked up a brochure on bus tours to NYC. Now all I need is a passport and two thousand dollars.