Wednesday, September 12, 2007

sad self-pitying post

[Apologies in advance.]

The Thing at my office happened again today. I ate my lunch for breakfast and then worked studiously at my desk until 5, at which point I realized I had forgotten to eat lunch. I went to the kitchen to get some pretzels. The editorial assistant followed me. I complained of my plight.

"Oh," she said. "You should have come to lunch with us."

Then we both fell silent, for we realized that "us" included everyone else, and that I had in fact not been invited to lunch, because "us" doesn't think of inviting me, because I'm not one of "them" (it's not clear exactly why I'm not, but of course there's lots of room for me to ruminate about how uncool I must be). I am saddened, especially because these are nice people who don't mean to deliberately exclude me, so it must just be that they simply don't think of me as a friend. I also miss the old days of camaraderie at my old company, where I had Blue and Nikki to hang out with everyday.

6 comments:

angelle said...

i love you. if you worked near me, we'd have sushi every day. punctuated with intervals of pho.

i know how you feel though. it sucks to be forgotten. almost worse than being purposely excluded. don't worry. it's happened to me too. :(

poopoo on them.

Kaytie M. Lee said...

This has happened to me, too. It pretty much sucks. It takes time to establish that kind of lunching relationship, though, and from what I recall you haven't been at the new company long, right? Regardless, they're sucky for not including you.

Once, my husband and I found out that our two best couple friends (we introduced them to each other) went to Vegas for the weekend without us. Talk about crappy feelings.


Also, if you're ever in San Diego or I'm ever in NYC, let's do lunch!

Live@theGrouchoClub said...

I eat lunch alone every day, so I know how you feel. I listen to the "Keith and the Girl" podcast to keep me company, this works well and I don't notice the absence of other human beings. Maybe there is a podcast out there that you could use for this purpose as well.

Plus, you're actually not uncool at all. In fact, you're pretty "fucking kickass", to use the technical terms.

Maprilynne said...

You can come have lunch with me and my kids. They typically request Mac and cheese. *rolls eyes* Sometimes it's better to dine alone.

But *hugs* anyway!

writtenwyrdd said...

I'm sorry. It sucks to be excluded. If you haven't been there for very long, perhaps it is because you are new and they are unconsciously excluding you? Perhaps if you invited some of them to accompany you to lunch?

Before I transferred to the new worksite, I was excluded. And I'm talking deliberately. When everyone else gets invited to someone's party but not me, it's not my imagination. The only guy who was nice enough to include the foreigner (I'm not from Maine, you see) now works with me. So all is well. Except we don't have time for parties and we never get the same days off.

Nikki said...

Aw, miss you too Moonie. But tomorrow we'll lunch. Tra la la!